Mother Hits Daughter With a Shoe, Faces Child Abuse Charge

A 57-year-old woman hit her daughter with a shoe after finding explicit text messages from a boy on her daughter's phone.

A 57-year-old Menomonee Falls woman is facing a felony charge after allegedly hitting her daughter with a shoe.

The woman was charged in the Waukesha County Circuit last week with one felony count of child abuse. She faces up to six years in imprisonment and a $10,000 fine.

According to the criminal complaint:

On Jan. 15, the woman’s 14-year-old daughter told a teacher at Hamilton High School that her mother had hit her several times with a shoe two days prior. The teacher saw numerous bruises on the girl, and reported the incident to social services. Police were dispatched to the high school shortly thereafter.

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Police contacted the woman, and she said a 17-year-old boy from their church had been texting her daughter messages that were explicit in nature. When she saw the texts, she became upset and questioned her daughter about her relationships with boys, which made her even more upset.

The woman picked up a Vans brand tennis shoe from her daughter’s closet and began hitting her with the heel end of the shoe. The strikes caused bruising and welts on the girls arms and back. When the girl showed her mother the marks, she told police her mother said, “They would go away.”

The girl also told police her mother had struck her on the buttocks with a belt on previous occasions, but they didn’t leave any lasting marks. 

Vickie Dederich February 25, 2013 at 06:52 PM
I have spanked my children and as you said they deserved it. They can probably count on one hand how many times they were spanked in their life. However, this sounds like more than a spanking. If bruises were left, she was spanked pretty hard. Or hit hard. To me that is abuse . My children were never spanked so hard that they had bruises or that it even hurt them. I agree that this woman should be charged. As I side note, I never spanked my children past the age of 5. This girl seems a little old for spankings. Grounding, taking things away or reasoning with this girl would have been more effective.
Mike B February 25, 2013 at 07:44 PM
Not even getting involved with this one. However, I'll just point out that previous generations got spanked when they were naughty and turned out fine. Current generations are being pampered with no spanking, no keeping score in sports, etc so that no one ever has their self esteem hurt or hast to lose at something. Then those kids get to the real world, can't deal with issues and rejection, and we end up with Sandy Hook...
AMINT February 25, 2013 at 08:31 PM
Poor parenting..... on her part.. If this women feels its ok to hit her teenage child, what was she doing when the child wasn't big enough to fight back??? By this point in her childs life she should work on using verbal comunication. The way the teenage boy was talking to her daughter wasn't acceptable but striking her with a shoe is. Way to reinfoce self respect..........
Barb V February 26, 2013 at 05:56 PM
Spanking is not necessary. I've been watching my daughter with my 9 year old grandson. She uses time outs exclusively on him, has taught me how to use them effectively and it's amazing how powerful that is and she's just a regular person with no college education. Other good "weapons" we have is No TV, no computer time etc. and if older, no cell phones. Even 3 hours of no cell phone use would have an impact on some teens! One time I was very upset with my grandson when he was about 6, and I even asked him "do you want a spanking or a time out?" and he actually chose the spanking! (I gave him the time out).
Team Christine February 26, 2013 at 06:25 PM
So NOW where does this 14 y/o GO?! Into the system with Rampant Sex/Abuse. WHy does this story not give the name of the 57 y/o? Curious. It was stated prior (this question).
Jill berger February 26, 2013 at 06:28 PM
That is not "spanking," that is abuse. She used a shoe. She was enraged. She left multiple bruises. She likely has a history of this kind of behavior. And it teaches kids that violence is an appropriate response to anger, frustration, etc. The mom needs treatment- how to deal with those kinds of feelings. She needs to learn how to give consequences for kids misbehavior. And she deserves appropriate consequences for her abusive behavior. Parents need to give themselves "time outs" when they feel that enraged. When calmer, it is easier to have a conversation. I know- its easy to say that and hard to do it in the moment. But we are the grown ups - its our job to parent our kids and to try to lead by example. Yes I'm a mom and no I do not spank.
Carl Engelking February 26, 2013 at 06:48 PM
The parent wasn't named in order to protect the identity of the child.
Kris W February 26, 2013 at 07:13 PM
This woman may get 6 yrs and her daughter is still alive but a woman who killed her daughter may get 45 DAYS?????????
Jim Brundage February 27, 2013 at 12:06 AM
Assuming the facts in this story are accurate, the daughter may not have done anything wrong! She RECEIVED the text messages - she did not write them! It sounds as though the boy from church wrote some inappropriate texts. Without knowing the contents of the messages, we really can't tell whether this boy was just being a normal teen-ager, or if what he wrote was seriously offensive. As to the mother, whatever the contents of the texts - injuring her daughter was morally and legally wrong! She deserves the arrest. Hopefully, the court will the appropriate punishment. Furthermore, I hope that she seeks the right treatment for whatever mental problem that led her to act this way.
melasia ruffin May 26, 2013 at 07:23 PM
I think its wrong that she did that. I mean she's 17 almost a adult. I would have hit her back if she did that to me. Her mom knew she was gonna start dating anyway.


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