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Open Letter to Mom With Multiple Unruly Children at Noodles and Company

Open letter to the mother with her "brood of failure" who visited Noodles and Company on the evening of Dec. 27.

I enjoy tasty hot noodles on a cold night like everyone else. What really hampered my enjoyment yesterday was a mother dragging her "brood of failure" into Noodles and Company in Menomonee Falls.

I have no problems with families with children as long as they are well-behaved, this group, unfortunately, was FAR from it. As the dead-eye mother stood there placing her order (without a care in the world), her unruly children were hyper actively running around, kicking each other, yelling, and acting very disrespectful to the establishment we were in.

Not to mention that the place was very busy and servers were constantly carrying very large trays of food carefully through the area that these hyperactive children were "playing" in.

Not at any one time did the mother of these "failures" do anything to stop this sort of behavior or discipline them. She did not tell them to "be careful of the servers" or take any responsibility for the fact that she was endangering both her children and others with her lack of parenting. It really was a sad state of affairs.

Both me and my husband were so disgusted at this display of lack of parenting that we would have walked out (if we hadn't already ordered our food to go).

So this open letter is to that parent: If you had the nerve to give birth to those hyperactive children, then YOU will take some responsibility and get them under control! Noodles and Company is NOT Chuck'E Cheese and if you cannot control them maybe that is where you need to eat from now on, at a place that children are expected to "act like children" with little to no discipline.

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Kristi December 28, 2012 at 09:40 PM
The point of the letter isn't the wording she used, but the lack of respect of this family. Public places are not there for everyone to just run loose and do whatever they want. This family is the perfect example of those that sue for no reason - if anything were to happen to those kids while they were there, the restaurant would have been to blame. Which then would end in a lawsuit and money to a family that doesn't deserve it. I don't believe she meant that they were actual 'failures' but that the parents of these children have failed to even ATTEMPT to mold them into decent people. We grew up in a different time and all we can do is do our best to teach respect and good values. Some people you can't change.
Nuitari (Grand Master Editor) December 28, 2012 at 10:07 PM
AWESOME AWESOME AWESOME. Nuitari approves this public beat down on idiots. Modern parents need to wise up with their little monsters before they turn into whores and serial killers. They are breeding too much an entitled society as it is. Lay down some laws instead of being your child's friend.
Brian Robert December 28, 2012 at 10:08 PM
Ha Ha - This woman and anyone who sided with her doesn't have children. OR(!!!) they only had 1 spoiled rotten kid with no siblings. You're all living in a fantasy world, and you're the ones who should stay at home. You are SO unrealistic if you think my failure of a self and my failure kids aren't going to ruin your night. You want nice??? DON'T GO TO NOODLES FOR GOD'S SAKE!!! And oh by the way, stay away from Mickey Ds you big spenders. Holy crud!!! Do you know how many times when some elderly folks are speaking WAY too loud about subjects that make we want to vomit up my food or teenagers are dropping f-bombs while I have my kids sitting somewhere? Seriously - have some kids. I used to get pissed about kids until I had some. Now I can eat a peaceful meal in any restaurant with a kid who's screaming b/c "I know". If you and your husband do actually have kids, then either it's been so long ago that you've forgotten or they're scarred for life from their childoods b/c you didn't allow them to be kids.
Nuitari (Grand Master Editor) December 28, 2012 at 10:30 PM
Brian, what you say is true, but you let parents of the hook. Maybe you're parent of year in someone's eyes, but I see a lot of god awful children I'd like to throw into oncoming traffic simply because their parents are too engrossed in themselves, perhaps involved in their cell phones more than their children.
Jann December 28, 2012 at 10:32 PM
I have kids and yes they can indeed get out of hand in a public place. But I never let them get away with it. Its one thing to have a crying baby that you really have no control over, but when kids are running around and pushing and shoving, that can be stopped. We went to a pub type restaurant this summer and there was a family with children there that was beating on the tables like they were drumming. My husband said to the waitress "please have them stop or we are going to leave." She or a manager asked them to stop. This is what I think is the best way to handle it as it doesn't create a fight between families and lets the restaurant manager become aware of a situation that may have good paying customers (and probably not just one family) leave because of it. Would they rather make one family angry and not return or the entire restaurant full?
Nuitari (Grand Master Editor) December 28, 2012 at 10:34 PM
Being entitled is not only a monetary fault of the bottom feeders but an attitude as a whole. Teach your children to rise above adversity and not feel sorry for themselves and maybe they'll act like model citizens and be successful in their future endeavors.
Brian Robert December 28, 2012 at 11:03 PM
I think it's funny that just a week or so ago, we as a nation couldn't love children enough. Now we can't stand them for being themselves in a Noodles (of all places). People have very little capacity to know what is important in life. As a person who's served in Desert Storm, Haiti, and Iraq twice, I have this to say: Love what little time you have with children. If you are getting so bent out of shape with what kids are doing in restaurants, then leave. Plain and simple - leave. YOU and you alone are letting yourself get angry with what's going on. In the big picture of life, this matters so little that I personally think it's funny and not upsetting.
Jonathan December 28, 2012 at 11:06 PM
Craig, I am a product of an upper-middle class conservative family. I have never felt entitled to anything, nor was that the mentality in my home. You use a mighty broad brush to paint society, and your perception of others who may not be as angelic of citizens as you clearly are is extremely warped. My parents are phenomenal people, I was well disciplined and raised to be a respectful person. The difference between me and you? I respect everyone, not just those who share my views. Also, unlike you, I understand that each person may be facing challenges and come from a background much different from myself, and I am not so quick to pass judgment on people as you are for this reason.
Jonathan December 28, 2012 at 11:21 PM
Craig, you are a prime example of what is wrong with this country. Keep living behind your keyboard and fueling the fire that is hatred, cynicism, and arrogance which is ruining our culture.
Jonathan December 28, 2012 at 11:34 PM
Thank you for continuing to prove my point. Best wishes.
Nuitari (Grand Master Editor) December 28, 2012 at 11:39 PM
Funny how I, Craig, and Jonathan are conservatives going at each other.
Angie December 29, 2012 at 05:15 AM
I think I'm that mom, we live right by there!  How flattering!  I'm totally letting my kids go wild next time I'm there!!!  Gosh, and I would love to go to Chuck E Cheez every night, problem is its a half hour drive to the nearest one, so not very feasible!  Im that mom who uses Target and the ilk of department stores in lieu of playgrounds in the winter.  Question about this story, Cheri Bronk, How do you know they didn't get off from the highway on a busy travel weekend letting off steam?  I was exhausted traveling with kids this weekend!  Well, whatever, sometimes I know what you mean.  I would like to write an open letter to the 8-month pregnant lady who body presses more weight than me at the gym, but hey, it's really none of my business if she's giving birth to Tarzan, I mean no ones perfect, right?
Steve ® December 29, 2012 at 06:10 AM
I have a rule that anyone living in an apartment not get near my 1% personal safety zone. It is uncertain the diseases or viruses they may carry.
Steve ® December 29, 2012 at 06:15 AM
Where was it stated he was a conservative? All I got is his parents showed him the light, he smoked pot and voted for Obama. His parents still pay the tax bill.
Steve ® December 29, 2012 at 06:16 AM
You decided to spread your legs. Control your tax deductions in my private business.
Nuitari (Grand Master Editor) December 29, 2012 at 03:20 PM
If what Angie sounds is true, than let's let her off the hook for this one. Cheri's general point is well taken though. Nowadays, parents don't seem to get the whole supervision thing in public places, even if a child's behavior is the slight bit mild. We wonder why kids drown in pools and run into traffic.
Jann December 29, 2012 at 06:44 PM
If the mom was getting off the highway after a long trip, she would have passed the McDonalds with the playland that is just down the road from Noodles. That probably would have been a better choice for her. Even McDonalds has a separate eating area from the play land. They realize that not everyone wants to deal with children. Any restaurant manager that lets this behavior go is going to empty out the place in a hurry.
Let's Roll December 29, 2012 at 07:13 PM
It is a bad reflection on a parent when they don't respect others around them and think that everyone should be cool with what their kids do. It always annoys me in church when parents let their kids yell, runaround, cry, instead of removing them, especially when there are crying rooms or other methods of not disturbing others. Last year in a band concert this mom, dad and their daughter talked through the whole performance until their kid started to perform. Then they scolded a another couple two tables away for talking while their son was performing. This is exactly the same as letting your kids run wild in an adult restaurant and being offended that someone called you on it. There are way too many people who are too into themselves that they shouldn't be bringing others into the world for us to look after.
Amaryllis December 30, 2012 at 04:33 PM
Sounds like you need to put a very big gate around your property and a "no tresspassing" sign. Or better yet, move to a neighborhood with civilize people, and hopefully a "no children" covenant!
Amaryllis December 30, 2012 at 04:36 PM
Sounds like it was written by a person who is sick of other people's unruly children ruining everyone else's enjoyment of their meal. And you think it's picky that someone doesn't want the neighbor's dog relieving themselves on his lawn, or having the the neighbor's kids use it as a playground? It's called trespassing. If it were me, I'd be calling the cops!
Amaryllis December 30, 2012 at 04:42 PM
Sorry to tell you that doesn't work. Went out for Christmas dinner at 7 pm. Dinner was $300, and tip was $300 (I always tip 100 percent on holidays). What did I get for my $600 dinner? A family with two unruly kids, one of which was running around a table for two. I complained to the manager who got rid of them. Regardless of the price, unruly kids belong NO WHERE that doesn't actually have an attached playground. If your child is misbehaving you get off your backside and take your child on a walk. If that doesn't work you take your dinner to go. You DO NOT disturb other people. It is folks like you that make it bad for other parents who do the right thing both in training and disciplining their children.
Amaryllis December 30, 2012 at 04:44 PM
I didn't like them any better a week ago. I'm sorry when anyone is murdered, but it didn't make me any sadder that they were children. That being said, I don't think unruly children belong anywhere in public outside of a place meant for child play.
Amaryllis December 30, 2012 at 04:48 PM
Who cares what the reason is? You had the kids, you control them. If they can't behave in civilized society don't take them on trips, don't take them into restaurants. No one cares if you are exhausted. I don't care if some preggo lifts weights in the gym. I only care if your lifestyle is impinging on mine. What do you think would happen if I started running around tables in a restaurant while screaming? It is unbelievable what parents think is acceptable behavior these days. I hope a waiter drops a steaming hot platter all over your misbehaving child and that it spatters all over you too. Then maybe you'll understand some of the reasons for keeping your brood in line.
Cheri Bronk December 30, 2012 at 06:49 PM
I'm the one who submitted this article and to clear things up for some of the narrow-minded folks above, let me give you a little background. My post comes from someone who was raised in the area and as a child I would have never ever been allowed to act like these children were acting in public. My parents would have brought me out to the car, spanked me and then took me home, which is what I agree they should do if I were acting out of line and hitting/kicking my siblings. What I hated about the whole situation over at noodles was the fact that these children were hitting/kicking and acting out and the parents just stood there, dead-eyed and didn't seem to think there was anything wrong with this behavior. Like I said in the article, the place was very busy and servers were having enough trouble bringing out their large trays of food... throw a kid in the mix that's running in front of them acting out, well then you got a larger disaster waiting to happen. I don't have a problem with children, I have a problem with children that act out and the parents that don't care because they are walking around like zombies or too busy playing with their iPhones. And thank you Craig for bringing your idiotic insults to the comments area. To clarify for you, I pay 100% of the rent and have never needed help doing so. I'm betting I probably make way more than you as well. You're beneath me and always will be.
Nuitari (Grand Master Editor) December 31, 2012 at 03:21 PM
Wow Cheri, I thought Craig was defending your position. I know I certainly am.
Missy December 31, 2012 at 06:21 PM
I think the child's lack of discipline is the failure the writer is referring to.
Missy December 31, 2012 at 06:29 PM
I had this very same experience in a hospital emergency room last week of ALLl places. The mother just sat there while her children ran wild. When a patient who was ill and waiting to be seen asked her if she could please control her children she screamed and said "they are 4, 2, and 1 and taking ADHD medication ... what do you want me to do". The patient calmly responded "take them home and give them some more medication". It was very serious and intense but looking back on it I have to say it was also hilarious. You had to be there. Plain and simple, children learn discipline from their parents and if you never give it to your child, they will run amok, and your inability to corral them will be obvious by how they act in public places like the ER or Noodles and Company. (Said by a mother of three whose children were disciplined during their upbringing and can see the fruits of her labor in the behaviors of her grandchildren.)
Missy December 31, 2012 at 06:32 PM
I am sorry but I totally agree with the writer. The mother should have disciplined her children and made them behave better. Maybe "brood of failure" is not the term she should have used but if that is all you are taking away from this ...... well you missed her point entirely.
Missy December 31, 2012 at 06:35 PM
@ Kristi .... VERY WELL SAID!
Missy December 31, 2012 at 06:40 PM
The victims of the senseless murder of the children at Sandy Hook Elementary is entirely different than parents who don't control their children in public places. SMH at your indifference to recognize that.

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